Harmony between "bahus" --basis of domestic peace

Are you about marry into a typically traditional joint family? Are there several sons or brothers in that family and their wives? If yes, then gear yourself up to face your army of relatives in a tactful, diplomatic manner.This is because the smallest friction or voice of dissent between the sisters- in- law( wives)is enough to mar the domestic peace and harmony.

Agreed,this is easier said than done.There are certain everal psychological as well as sociological factors which come into play here. Moreover each individual needs to make conscious effort to make the venture successful.

So in case, you are on your way to be one such bahu, here is what you could do by way of contributing to family peace:

Do not indulge in showing of about your family background, resources and connection in high places, your personal possessions, jewellery etc..This tends to irritate the other wives and you are likely to fall from grace.

Do not involve your self in petty family politics, taking sides with or against elders etc.As far as possible try to keep a clean, unsullied image.

Do not brag about your own income( if you are working ) and /or that of your spouse.This brings into limelight the disparity between incomes of the various family members and is apt to create jealousies and rivalries.

If there are older wives in the family , learn to give them the respect they deserve.

If there are other wives in your peer group, try to take them into confidence and seek their help to solve certain common problems.

If your husband's brothers have children,then you must make a determined effort to strike a rapport with all of them.This is a sure fire way of earning the pleasure of your sisters -in -law.

Inculcate the spirit of sharing.Whenever you receive some gooey goodies and delicacies from your parental home or friends,make it a point to share it instantly with the children and the women. Remember, women are very keen observers andgenerally very sensitive about such issues.It is vitally important not to invite their ire.

Avoid indulging in verbal duels, bitching, backbiting and use of abusive language.even under severest of provocation. Don't attempt to unearth the skeleton's in others' cupboards.Cross your heart, probably there are a few in yours too!!!!!!.

Learn to say sorry even after a major conflict.You are likely to face coldness but in the process, you will exonerate yourself.Your behaviour naturally gets noted and so there will be plus mark in your favour.